Connect to Something….

Connect to Something….

That makes you feel good or that releases stress and reminds you of the things that you have to be grateful for. For me I love music. I love singing and dancing. From Kindergarten until I graduated high school I was always in a musical program of some sort. I watch a lot of tv shows that involve singing. I used to love Glee and American Idol. I love watching So You Think You Can Dance, Dancing With The Stars, and World of Dance. Watching these shows often makes me wish I would’ve taken up dancing as a child and pursued a career in professional dancing.

I listen to music of all different types of genres and it doesn’t have to be in English either! Spanish, German I don’t care. If it touches me or makes me dance then that’s all I care about. I’ve told my husband so many times that I want to take Latin dance classes. I can Salsa, Merengue and Bachata but I know I would just love taking classes, dressing up and performing.

What is it about music and dancing that I love? Well it makes me feel free. Free from stress, worry-all the things I’m balancing. It also helps me to process my feelings. When I’m having a difficult day and I need guidance I’ll turn on Praise and Worship music to connect deeper with God and often times it turns into me remembering how good He is and how He’s blessed me more than I deserve. I don’t just turn on Praise and Worship when I’m sad, but when I’m happy as well.

When I’m feeling super emotional I’ll play certain artist that tend to have emotional music because I feel like in their music is understanding for what I’m feeling or dealing with. There are times when I’m happy and excited and I want to dance. I’ll put on music that reflects that. A lot of the time that’s Salsa music. The point is my connection to music and dancing helps me to go deeper and to process what I’m going through in the moment. It’s a release for me.

A lot of the time I come out from my dancing/singing sessions feeling blessed, motivated, encouraged, understood and powerful. This could also directly represent my relationship with God. When I connect with Him in prayer or just spend time worshipping Him, I come out feeling the same way or ten times better.

No matter what you’re facing or balancing-good or bad- I challenge you to find your release. Look for something in your life to connect to that pulls you out from that dark place and reminds you of your purpose. Seek something that helps you turn your thoughts or your pain into something productive.

Yes, we may have people in our lives that we can talk to sometimes that can help pick us up or celebrate with us. But we all know from personal experience that people aren’t always there for you. Sometimes you have to tough it out alone and pull your own self out or celebrate alone. And that’s ok. Just find that thing that gets you there and keeps you pushing through. Find the thing that won’t let you give up on you. You’re worth fighting for.

Learn to Enjoy…

Learn to Enjoy…

The company of yourself!!! Ok I’m an introvert. Because I’m such a friendly, outgoing person people tend to find that really hard to believe about me. I do love people. I love spending time with those that I have relationship with but I also enjoy mass amounts of time alone. I have to mentally work myself up to be in group settings. After spending large amounts of time with people I need several days to decompress.

Sometimes I find it hard to commit to dates, parties, events or other “adventures” because I may have over exhausted myself by spending lots of time going out doing things with other people so I don’t have the energy to do it repeatedly. I tend to get cranky when I don’t have the time to regroup before embarking on something else. In life, things are busy. We don’t always get the alone time we desire. But you know how I learned these things about myself? By spending time with myself.

Early on in life I lost myself. Big time. I lost the motivation I had to meet my goals personally or career wise. I was fully committed to being a wife and mother and that’s what my life revolved around. When I look back on that time in my life I realized I was depressed but didn’t know it. But because I didn’t spend time with myself getting to listen to my thoughts and my desires and my heart I lost myself. It took me some counseling, some alone time just thinking and definitely some Jesus to get back to the things that I am passionate about.

Being alone with yourself doesn’t necessarily mean never going out with friends or doing things with family. But it does mean you need to actually carve out time to hear your own thoughts or think about your life goals or maybe evaluate your career goals. Being alone with yourself also provides you with the opportunity to seek God for His purpose for your life. Some of the loneliest stages of my life created some of the most beautiful moments for me.

When I felt at my lowest and on my own like I had no one, those were the moments and opportunities that I had to self evaluate and really get to know me without all of the clutter of people and life. There is something to be said for being set apart. Sometimes when we feel like we are all alone it’s actually God setting us apart so that He can take us to a new level in life.

You can’t know what you want in life if you don’t actually know who you are. You can’t know who you are if you don’t spend time with yourself and with God. Not with people all the time because, at times,people will put labels on you that aren’t what God says about you. We will let those labels stick and then let it hold us back. You have to spend time alone so you can hear what God says about you.

So if you’re finding yourself in a season of restlessness with yourself right now and you’re struggling with finding your purpose, spend some time with yourself. If you’re struggling through relationships and you can’t decide on what you should do within those relationships, spend some time with yourself. If you’ve gotten off track in life and lost your purpose, motivation, or drive then take some time out to clear your head and hear your thoughts. It is in these moments when we take time to quiet the noise and just sit with nothing but our thoughts that God can grab our attention and speak to our broken places, heal the shattered pieces and encourage us to keep going.

Spend some time alone getting to know you so that you can walk into the next stage of life that God is calling you to. Your future you depends on it!