When I get upset I tend to shut down. I get really quiet and reserved. I very rarely respond to anything out of anger. I usually take the time to think about how I feel, what I feel and why I feel that way. Ladies we are emotional beings and at times (Who am I kidding?? Most of the time! Lol) we let our emotions lead us. We let them over rule our decision making sometimes.
While it’s ok to take the time when angry or upset to calm down or think, don’t let what you’re feeling stay inside. I’m guilty of this a lot because I always want to give people the benefit of the doubt. A person can hurt me or show me with their actions how they feel and I’ll still try to be understanding. We have got to learn to accept people and their faults without letting them continuously hurt us. We have also got to learn to be more vocal with those around us.
It does us no good if our friend or husband or coworker keeps doing things that bother us or hurt us and we don’t tell them. Yes, there are somethings that we are just being petty about or over reacting to. But there are other things that we linger on or can’t let go of and it’s because we need to communicate. We need to be honest. Sometimes we need to be honest with ourselves and move on from relationships. Other times we need to be honest with the person.
Someone’s best chance at getting better as a person is through someone else being honest with them. You are doing your friends and other relationships a great disservice if you’re not being truthful with them about your feelings or certain behaviors they exhibit that you’re not communicating to them. We have to do these things in love, of course. But we have to start talking to people and stop holding everything in.
Sometimes it’s not easy to say it so write it down. I keep journals. I’ve kept them all of my life. And sometimes when I’m dealing with something and I don’t quite know how I feel or what to do I write it out. I write out frustrations or confusion or pain. Just getting those things out on paper and then going back and reading it gives me such freedom!
So I’m encouraging us today to be more open with communication. Be more open with those we love about our thoughts to include our goals and dreams. We don’t always have to communicate the negative. Start sharing positive things or plans you have so that those around you can encourage you, cheer you on, and tell you how proud they are of you. We are not in competition with each other. Your pain is just as valid as mine no matter how big or small. And your dreams are important! Let it out. It’s good for you.